Barry's Web Page


Saturday, November 15, 2008


The following is a prayer that I used last weekend

at our Remembrance Sunday Service:


This day we remember all who have died:

mainly those whose death came in a war,

but also those whose death came where there was no war,

as a result of some violence or tragedy,

as a result of illness or accident,

at the beginning of a life, or after many years.


All death brings sadness, especially when it is someone we love.

All death brings questions,

some that we ask of ourselves, some that we ask of God.


Whenever death should come,

even for someone with great faith in God,

most people, if they could choose,

would prefer the one who has died to be with them still.


Knowing this to be impossible brings a christian to prayer.


So today

as we think back on our memories of those we have loved

but who are now with God,

we pray for them

that they may be at peace and at home with God,

and we pray for ourselves

that we may continue to live our lives

inspired by the people who have meant so much to us.



with my best wishes for you now and always,











Wednesday, October 22, 2008


Tomorrow, I catch an evening flight from Melbourne,

and hopefully will be back in Eastbourne

sometime on Friday afternoon.

For my last reflection

I thought I would include something from Bishop Timothy Costelloe,

Episcopal Vicar for Youth.


In St Patrick's Cathedral, Melbourne,

on Sunday, October 5,

at the World Youth Day 2008 Reunion Mass and Festival

he said this:

"While WYD has been a wonderful blessing for the Church,

I hope that the real fruits of this event

will show at the local level,

with our youth playing a greater role in local parish life.


Young people are seeking ways to live out their faith,

and there are three simple ways to do this:

by praying,

be being a witness of Christ,

and through service to others.


Prayer provides us with a strong foundation

for living a peaceful life.

We can be a witness of Christ

by living a life with Christ at the centre of all that we do.

And similar to this is service,

where we are called to help those around us in our community."


All of those things are, of course,

what each of us is called to do,

and what each of us is called to help each other to do.


I've found the people in Australia

very friendly and helpful,

and these qualities are surely what all people of faith should show in their lives.


As Anna Sewell once said,

no matter what faith people profess to have

if they do not show such qualities

then their faith is a complete sham.


So next time someone asks us

"what difference does your faith make to your life?'

I hope we will all be able to reply:

'It makes me more friendly and helpful.'


with my best wishes for you now and always,















Tuesday, October 14, 2008


While here in Australia,

I have come across a little book by Verna Holyhead,

called "A Pillow for my Heart."


On one of the pages it has this quote from Rabindranath Tagore:

"Death is not the extinguishing of the light;

it is putting out the lamp because the dawn has come."


This is followed by a prayer that although it is primarily for use

in the early days after someone has died,

could also be used, I think, with a slight alteration, at more or less any time:


"God of all consolation,

send into our hearts

a strong faith in Jesus,

the bright Morning Star.

As once,

in the dawn of Easter morning,

light mingled with darkness

when Jesus rose out of death,

grant that he will also rise

out of the dark places of our grief,

to bring into our lives

a new dawn of hope."



with my best wishes for you now and always,












Thursday, October 2, 2008


Another item from an Australian Parish magazine:


It is said that when Audrey Hepburn

was asked to share her beauty tips she wrote these words

that years later were read at her funeral:

"For attractive lips,

speak words of kindness.

For lovely eyes,

seek out the good in people.

For a slim figure,

share your food with the hungry.

For beautiful hair,

let a child run his/her fingers through it once a day.

For poise,

walk with the knowledge that you never walk alone.

People, even more than things,

have to be restored, renewed, revived,

reclaimed, and redeemed;

never throw out anyone.

Remember, if you ever need a helping hand,

you will find one at the end of each of your arms.

As you grow older,

you will discover that you have two hands:

one for helping yourself,

and the other for helping others."



with my best wishes for you now and always,








Monday, September 22, 2008


While in Australia for a few days,

I have come across a couple of items of interest.


As from May 11, 2008,

Catholics in Australia

are being asked to make two changes in the way we celebrate Mass.

The first is one that we already do in England,

it is about standing when the priest invites the people to pray

at the end of the Preparation of the Gifts.

The second change

is asking the people to bow just before receiving Holy Communion.

If done while the person in front of them is receiving

it will avoid disrupting the flow of the Communion Procession.

It should also help to make the Communion Procession

reverent, ordered, and never rushed.


Sounds like a good idea.


In the magazine of a nearby Parish

I came across the story of the Two Wolves.

One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson

about a battle that goes on inside people.

He said: "The battle is between the two 'wolves' inside us all.

One is Evil.

It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret,

greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt,

resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride,

superiority, and ego.

The other is Good.

It is joy, peace, love, hope,

serenity, humility, kindness,

benevolence, empathy, generosity,

truth, compassion, and faith."

The grandson thought about it for a minute

and then asked his grandfather: "Which wolf wins?"

The old Cherokee simply replied:

"The one you feed."


with my best wishes for you now and always,












Sunday, September 7, 2008


In July this year, Daniel O'Leary wrote an article in The Tablet.

It included this story, and as The Olympics have now finished

and the Paralympics just started, I thought I would pass it on to you.


with my best wishes for you now and always,


"During a past Olympic Games, Fr Colm Kilcoyne, the Irish priest and journalist,
remembered a conversation with a nurse who worked in a children's hospital.

She talked about the sick child she cared for.
He had serious bone trouble and could not walk.
For months this nurse had worked patiently with him,
trying to get the power back into the frail little legs.
She was also whispering courage to his anxious heart.

One day she had him balanced, yet again, on his familiar support-frame.
She had prayed with him, loved him:
she now willed him to make even the tiniest movement.
And suddenly he did just that - he took one small step.

Suddenly distracted by the noise on TV,
the nurse looked up from his flushed, excited face
to see an Olympic champion on the podium,
pumping the air in triumph before an ecstatic stadium and a worshipping world.

There was no one around to witness the boy's victory
except his nurse - and their guardian angels.
No applause, no cameras, no medals.
Just a small boy who had taken one faltering step,
and then fallen into the arms of his nurse
- a nurse who would not trade that moment
for all the gold in China.